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Rabbi Yitz Wyne

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One of the most important concepts the Jewish people has gotten to everyone, then one that has elevated and civilized humanity, is �V�ahavta l�reyacha kamocha - So you shall love your neighbor as yourself� (Vayikra 19:18).

A noble goal, yes, but exactly how realistic is it?

And yet, one cannot help but wonder how different the globe would be if everyone truly loved others because he loved himself.

We may reside in a world without any crime or gossip. People will be more charitable and considerate. Happiness, goodness and gratitude would reign! People would feel more attached to the other person - and loved.

The reason it is a difficult goal is really because many of us don�t understand what this means to like others.

Reb David of Levlov once told his disciples that they had learned the extent you must love others by overhearing a discussion of straightforward peasants.

One of them suddenly asked his friend: �Do you're keen on me?� �I accept you a lot,� replied the friend. �Do do you know what We need?� asked the friend. �How am i allowed to determine what you need?� asked the opposite. �Then your ex isn't what true friend, for in case you really loved me, you would surely know all of my needs and troubles.�

It�s a fascinating idea, that love is illustrated by understanding another�s needs. I have heard more often than not from Rabbi Noah Orlowek that the definition of love is what is important to you is important in my opinion.

Like a husband and father, I often contemplate the requirements my partner and children. Like a community rabbi, there are lots of times I to look around the shul during davening, and pray for your needs of individuals space. Yet, I often wonder, do I really know what each person needs? I know what some individuals figure out they desire, but often we believe we need something, and also the Almighty includes a different idea.

A look into how to love others develops from a story that happened to me a lot more than 20 years ago. Before I acquired married, Industry experts our rabbeim for information on the best way to have a very great marriage. One of those conversations left an indelible impression on me.

The rav believed to me: �Yitz, I wish for you to learn you're a selfish animal. You will always be a selfish animal. It�s not your fault; it�s just how G-d created you. All you can do is to set out to include your wife inside your concise explaination self. Then include your children, then your community, and eventually your entire Jewish people. By expanding your concept of self to feature others, you won�t be swimming upstream when the time comes to take care of others� needs. Really, you'll be handling your own needs, that is natural for all of us.�

Another element of learning to increase our love of others is as simple as utilizing the concept of love as articulated by my rebbe, Rabbi Noah Weinberg zt�l. �Love,� he explained, �is when one identifies and appreciates the virtues in another.� The more we focus on what exactly is special with regards to a person, the greater we like to him or her.

On one occasion I used to be at a conference with other rabbis. We were split up into teams of five. 2 different people in most group knew each other well; two different people knew the other superficially for quite a while; there was one individual in the group whom there was all just met. Our assignment ended up being play the Love Game.

The item with the game was for each people to distinguish a virtue in each an affiliate the group, and after that share it with everyone. We were asked, �Were you capable of identify important in everybody in the group?� A better solution would be a resounding �Yes!�

The aim of the exercise ended up being illustrate that in the same manner that you could identify virtues in someone you've got noted for years, it's also possible to identify virtues in someone you merely met.

Imagine a world where each time a person interacted with another, they would identify something because person. Picture your global where people would recognize another person�s needs and treat your ex in the manner she or he thought about being treated. That might be a global truly full of happier, kinder people and goodness.

If the Torah says, �Love your neighbor as yourself,� it's not at all an indication. It is just a mitzvah, a responsibility. Just as a loving father won't command his son some thing beyond his reach, master will not command us to accomplish the impossible.

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