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Obsession - Are you currently Driving Your and yourself Friends Crazy?

His Secret Obsession
Individuals have addictions which seem incomprehensible to individuals who don't
have those addictions. Take gambling for example; non gamblers just don'
t understand how or why someone would spend every available opportunity
to sit inside a casino and willingly dispose of all their money. From an outside
notice appears like unbelievable stupidity. It appears to become a boring, repetitious
and frustrating hobby at the best. On a logical level we wonder why those
people haven't exercised that 'the house always wins'. The gambler loves
to dance around and brag concerning the times he did win even though we all see
the final result's that he has no home, no money in the bank and a
huge unsecured debt. Yet, on a small winning streak he can be completely
oblivious for this fact. Without analyzing all of the complexities of the gambling
addiction, we can summarize it as this: The gamblers belief in winning the large
the first is more than his belief in the reality of the items has happened, what is
happening and what will predictably happen. In a nutshell, the dream is much more
real compared to reality.

His Secret Obsession
Exactly the same can probably be said for drugs, alcohol, food, cigarettes, sex and all sorts of
addictions. The reality of an addicts life may be sheer devastation and yet
the belief that one more of whatever will be what the dream expects itself to
be.

It seems to me that the dream can hook right into a compartment inside the mind
and be completely embedded. It is like a sacred place also it contains
all we want. It may be wealth, happiness, love, security or whatever. We
have the ability to desires so we have the ability to dreams so we have the ability to a place in out minds
in which we live those possibilities. The gambler might have originally
had a dream of a large win. He probably were built with a handful of good wins initially
and that reinforced the dream. Somehow though, the gambler became
addicted to the dream. The big win turns into a primary reference point
and in time all experiences loop back to that time of reference. That's, all
information and every experience gets filtered with the point of reference.
Some refer to this as classic denial. I refer to it as 'The happy place'.

It appears impossible to talk logic or facts for an addict. They filter out what
you say; they may make believe you listen, or they argue along with you or blank you
out completely. Their eyes glaze over, their ears shut you out and you can
almost hear them singing lah, lah lah as you speak. They've attended the
happy place.

This might be familiar to anyone who has were built with a relationship with someone
with one of these major addictions. What's less obvious is the fact that most of us
are operating within very similar pattern - and that's: Obsession.

Obsessions can be hidden or often seem harmless or even a little quirky.
Someone else's obsession might be boring to all of us, but we do not pay much
attention as we are rarely impacted by them to any real degree. A lot of us
don't even know that we are obsessed. Yes, we all have our little happy
places so we all filter facts to suit our delusions. But, for a lot of people, we
are destroying our way of life or at least our potential lives.

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